Trust is one important thing to build when you are in a relationship. I’ve ever heard someone said that it takes years to build trust but it only takes minutes to destroy it. Well, one thing to easily destroy trust is lie. Some women (it could be you) say that in a relation, the person who has a big chance to lie is man. Do you know why? Well, let’s find out why men lie to women.
1. SOME MEN SEE IT AS A NORMAL THING TO DO
Well, sometimes they don’t see anything wrong with lying. This means that some guys are just liars and that’s what they do best. Evidently, these men don’t see how a lack of trust will undermine any love relationship. But since they’ve never examined the issue, they will continue to lie because it has helped them achieve their short-term objectives in the past.
2. THEY THINK THAT THE CONTENTS OF LYING IS UNIMPORTANT STUFF
Maybe for them it is just for fun and say something that isn’t totally true because it is not very important to them. They think that nothing bad will happen if they do it. It’s part of the freedom of doing and saying whatever they want, whenever they want.
3. MEN WOULD CHOOSE TO LIE BECAUSE WOMEN WOULD NOT UNDERSTAND
This is probably the biggest reason why men lie. They have a fear that by telling the truth the woman will evaluate solely from her point-of-view and not consider his side of the story. Rather than deal with this situation, a guy will often tell what he sees as a “little white lie” in order to avoid setting off a chain-reaction of other unwanted emotions in the woman. However, this also becomes a convenient “excuse” for men that justifies their negative actions and minimizes the “wrong” of lying.
4. A THOUGHT THAT WOMEN CAN’T FACE THE TRUTH
Well, before they lie, they may have a conviction that the woman cannot manage her upsets. If he lives with that woman, then it makes life at home totally miserable. If the relationship is already unstable, this added upset may lead to complete chaos.
5. BY LYING, THINGS WILL GO ON
They tend to lie to avoid confrontation because some men think that maybe things will change in the future and this will all become a non-issue to the woman. In addition, lying is a selfish way to protecting the liar without considering the other person’s best interests.
6. THE TRUTH IS OUT OF EXPECTATION
In the effort to impress a woman and show a proud front, a man will often exaggerate, distort, or delete certain truths. That’s because the truth about them may not be good enough in the man’s opinion to hold the attention of the woman in a competitive dating world. For example when the others say you are fat, but he tells the opposite when the truth is you are fat. For men, this can safe everything. Once this pattern is established, a man may continue until his lies are discovered.
Lying destroys trust in a relationship and it could be the first reason to destroy a relationship. Both of you should put trust as a foundation of the relation.